You shouldn't have to listen to people question your judgment especially when only you know what's right for your life. No one knows you like you know yourself. When you say "no" the answers no. When you say "yes" then let it be a yes. No explaining.
Not a revenge-oriented person, but really. No need to even avenge ourselves. (1) God is our avenger (2) Bitterness is poison (3) Some people just don’t deserve that place in your life. Hate and bitterness take too much energy that could be put.