You shouldn't have to listen to people question your judgment especially when only you know what's right for your life. No one knows you like you know yourself. When you say "no" the answers no. When you say "yes" then let it be a yes. No explaining.
Intelligent people ignore...Yes. Let it go, and move on with your life. Then amazingly one day you realize you haven't thought about that negative situation, or that jealous, vindictive person in like forever, and you think, "WOW!! What was her name.