Thinking of someone who stayed with me at my rock bottom for months, through years of difficult times. I can't blame him for needing a break from that, as much as it hurts.
Intelligent people ignore...Yes. Let it go, and move on with your life. Then amazingly one day you realize you haven't thought about that negative situation, or that jealous, vindictive person in like forever, and you think, "WOW!! What was her name.